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Connecting with People Increases Your Influence

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Connecting with People

There is no doubt that taking one step towards connecting with more people will improve your influence, build your roster of friends, and make you relevant. This means more than having someone follow you on social media. It means going the extra mile and reaching out to people, sometimes helping them using any means possible, and other times just talking to them.

It is such a simple concept, yet one that eludes a lot of people. Too often, the focus of connection is to try and sell or get something in return. This should be the last possible motivation when making connections. There is nothing wrong with trying to make some money using your connections or to get something in return. Primarily, in return for your friend, you will get support, attention, and friendship in return.

Give More Than You Take

The operative word when connecting with others is give. Always be willing to give way more than you take. Become the person everyone wants to contact for answers to their questions. Learn what people are looking for and give it to them if you can. Send them a personal email stating that you found what they were looking for. Step out of yourself, your comfort zone, and be a courteous friend.

Reach Out

When you take the extra measure to reach out to people on a personal level, they take notice and let others know about it as well. The more this happens, the more you become the resource that people will rely on. Another unintended consequence (a good one) that will happen as you increase your influence, is that you can help others to do the same. When you find people who are trying to build their connections and they are doing so in the manners described here, you can help them along by sharing your connections. They will be grateful for your efforts in this regard. Connections. Contacts. Support. Don’t live in isolation. Be a friend. Get a friend.

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Ten Tips to Strengthen Your Self-Esteem

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Keep a Strong and Healthy Self-Esteem

Your self-esteem is more than just the confidence you have in yourself. It goes much deeper than that, down into your feelings of self-worth and how much you respect yourself. Your self-esteem affects everything about you, from the decisions you make to your overall outlook on the world.

A strong and healthy self-esteem is one of the main building blocks of a happy and healthy you. With a healthy self-esteem you can have the confidence to do well in the world, and the self-respect to make good decisions.

Ten Tips Improve Self-Esteem

Here are ten tips on how to improve your self-esteem.

1. Stop the Criticism – Find the strength to stop criticizing yourself so much. You cannot expect yourself to be perfect any more than anyone else can.

2. Make a List – Make an actual “pro” and “con” list and write down what you do and do not like about yourself. Be specific and resist the impulse to just write things like “I hate my hair.” When you are very specific like this, you might find that you have less to dislike than you think.

3. Set Realistic Goals – Set personal goals for yourself so you have something to work for, and set up a reward system as well. Resist the urge to make unrealistic goals, however. For example, don’t expect to be able to run five miles the first time you try, or attempt to lose 50 lbs in a month. Make small, realistic goals and you will always have something to look forward to.

4. Take Care of Yourself – Eat right, exercise, and get plenty of sleep. Drink water. Take care of yourself, and take pride in your body and mind.

5. Think Positive Thoughts – Try to avoid thinking negative thoughts, especially when it comes to yourself. Instead, put those thoughts out of your head and purposely start listing all of the positives around you.

6. Don’t Make Comparisons – It is unrealistic and unhealthy to compare yourself to other people. You are a unique individual; you should take pride in what sets you apart.

7. Treat Yourself Well – Show yourself a good time every once in a while, or treat yourself to something special. Even small things, like taking the time to indulge in a good book or a home spa treatment, can do wonders for your self-esteem.

8. Meditate – Meditation isn’t about sitting cross-legged and humming. It is about taking the time to release your mind and body from all of the stress, closing your eyes, and focusing on centering yourself. Your BabeCave is the best place to meditate in quiet, surrounded by the things you love in a space you can call your very own. Meditation is a great stress reliever and could help you connect with your inner self.

9. Make Good Decisions – Good self-esteem is also about having self-respect. Making good decisions in all walks of life will help you maintain that self-respect. For most of us, the voice of our conscience starts to speak – sometimes softly – sometimes it screams – when we know something we are about to do is wrong. With good self-esteem, you learn to listen to your small voice and heed its warning.

10. The Truth about Perfection – The truth about perfection is that it doesn’t exist. No one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, and those mistakes are all part of the adventure of life. Don’t get hung up on things that you might not do just right, or if something isn’t perfect, because there is no such thing.

A healthy self-esteem can change your life. People with healthy self-esteem are more likely to make good decisions, work harder towards accomplishment, attract good people to their lives, influence others to feel good about themselves, and become satisfied with the life they have.

Reread these tips to improve your self esteem and work on it. With these tips, you can strengthen your self-esteem and live a happier life.

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The Art and Style of Self-Confidence

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Have you ever noticed an individual who was self confident, not necessarily to the point of arrogance, but just that self-confidence came naturally for them? Some individuals have no real issues with self-confidence. Do you often wonder why that is? How is it that some people just walk through life without ever doubting themselves or their intuition while others struggle with this issue?

Self-confidence, yes, is something that people are born with, but thankfully self-confidence is a learnable goal. Of course, even the most self-confident person has issues with insecurity and self-doubt. No one gets away unscathed with that. However, these individuals may be more resilient when things don’t go according to plan. They may be able to rebound a lot quicker than those of us who have little or no self-confidence.

Thankfully, there are ways around having little or no self-confidence. While it might take some practice, it is certainly something you can learn.

Put it in Writing

We all have our strengths, but we all also tend to focus on our own weaknesses. If you find yourself in this category, then perhaps it is time to put pen to paper. When you are sitting in your BabeCave, start making a list of your good qualities. Next to that, start making a list of your achievements.

When you list your good qualities, try to be very specific and show yourself your own uniqueness. For example, don’t just write that you are organized. Be specific and write down that you have wonderful time management skills therefore allowing you to be organized.

Every time you feel discouraged, take a look at your good qualities and look at your accomplishments. It is so easy to beat ourselves up but when we see it in writing, it makes it easier to remember we have already accomplished so much.

Practice Makes Perfect

Practice being self-confident. Decide that you are intentionally going to walk into a room and be self-confident. Once you have taken that on, walk in smiling. Make brief eye contact. Look up instead of down.

Try this on even if it is just briefly. Walk into an event and take on being confident. Play a character. Practice makes perfect. Once you have succeeded this one or two times, you will find it gets easier and easier to be self confident until it becomes natural.

The Art of Looking Good

When you look good, you feel good. Try to keep up with yourself a bit more when taking on self-confidence. A new haircut, a little bit of weight loss, a new outfit are all ways to change the way you look and feel. It is a trickle down effect.

However, when it comes to looking good, don’t take on looking like everyone else as far as your education, career, choice of hair cut, and clothing style. Get in touch with the real you and before you know it, you will shine through with authentic confidence every time.

Your BabeCave is Your Sanctuary

Remember, you set up your BabeCave so you have a private place to focus on you. This is your place for inspiration, education, and relaxation. Look in your mirror and smile. You should be pleased with who is smiling back. When you leave your BabeCave, be refreshed - and be confident. Besides, you have your own BabeCave - and that's a great accomplishment!

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Seasonal Decorations in Your Babe Cave

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Nature redecorates itself beautifully every season, doesn’t it? It’s only natural that we want to spruce up our Babe Caves to match the magnificent new season. Here are some ways to spruce up your Cave with seasonal decorations for spring and summer.

Decorate with Flowers

Decorate with flowers. Cut flowers are expensive and have a short lifespan. Silk flowers are pretty and last much, much longer. If you prefer real flowers, consider potted plants. As long as they get enough sun and water, they will live for a long time, making them much more cost-effective than cut flowers. Of course, if you have your own flower garden, use your own cut flowers and be proud that you have the gift of a “green thumb”!

Keep It Light

If dark curtains make the Babe Cave look too wintry, sew or hang curtains in a lighter color. Make or buy some simple spring-themed throw pillows for the couch, and create a nice spring centerpiece for your side table. If you put your creativity to work, you can have lots of new spring items for next to nothing. Or, go out and get what you want. After all, this is YOUR Babe Cave. Do what you want to make it your own!

Is your furniture hindering your spring decorating efforts? Try some slipcovers. You can find them to fit most couches and chairs, and they come in a variety of colors and fabrics. A light or pastel color will complement the rest of your summery décor.

Bring Outdoors In

Rocks and pieces of wood are available in certain stores or the great outdoors. They can easily be cleaned and painted in a spring color and motif. Place them in windowsills and on end tables. Use a large painted rock as a doorstop or focal piece.

Keep It Fresh

Pick up some candles in pastel colors and fresh scents. They will make your BabeCave smell great. The light colors make a great accent for any shelf, table or sconce.

Spruce Up With Seasonal Decorations

Decorating for the season is lots of fun, and it doesn’t have to be ridiculously expensive. Finding deals on Babe Cave items and creating some of your own accent pieces or furniture coverings allow you to prime your Babe Cave for inspiration, education, and much needed relaxation!

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Goal Setting Quotes

In life, as in football, you won’t go far unless you know where the goalposts are.
Arnold H. Glasgow

Goals are dreams with deadlines.
Diana Scharf Hunt

You must have long term goals to keep you from being frustrated by short term failures.
Charles C. Noble

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals.
Sydney Smith

Goals determine what you’re going to be.
Julius Erving

Whoever wants to reach a distant goal must take small steps.
Helmut Schmidt

The most important thing about goals is having one.
Geoffry F. Abert

Set your goals high, and don’t stop till you get there.
Bo Jackson

People with goals succeed because they know where they’re going.
Earl Nightingale

Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land amongst the stars.
Les Brown

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